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  200,000 evacuated last night in Northern California.

  by compound complex in

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  where a few of us here on the forum live is in an emergency situation.

  the main spillway on oroville dam -- the tallest dam in the usa -- is damaged.

  the emergency spillway, never used before in the 48 years the dam has operated, is eroding.. major confusion and panic occurred when the order went out sunday, late afternoon: this is not a drill!.

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  Stay safe 🍀
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  Disfellowshipped 2x adultry divorce remarried getting divorce to write my wrong

  by IDontKnowMe77 in

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  this is bit hard for me but im lost and don't know what to do.. 2010-married to a disfellowship person after only knowing him 3 months i began studying baptized few months later and he was reinstated same year.. i committed adultry 3-4 times in first 2 years of marriage he forgave me.

  he was a recovering alcoholic and fell off wagon hard when i tried to fix my wrong it was way out of hand he moved in drug addicts in the home we fought constantly i tried to get personal studies with a sister to keep going but i failed at that and left my husband i left for another man 2 in half years later im looking to divorce because well what goes around comes around and he committed adultery on me .

  i got what was coming for thinking i would live happy ever after.

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  Go to counseling, so you an see why you make the choices you do. You have to take care of yourself first before you are in a position to help anyone else. It seems you are looking to men for attention and validation.
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  If you had the power ....

  by Landy in

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  2. beliefs

  ...would you choose to ban the jw religion?.

  if you wouldn't ban them what, if any, changes would you force upon them?.

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  No I wouldn't, because that means I think I am superior to everyone else and my views are the only right ones. (Sound familiar JWs?) I would make it harder for all religions to be tax exempt. I would impose mandatory reporting for all religions and child abuse.
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  My families shunning has gone to a whole new level

  by pale.emperor in

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  8 months df'd.

  loving a life of freedom.

  however, my family are all shunning me.

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  This reminds me of my JW siblings, no matter how bad they act, they are the victim of every one else. They can't see their own self imposed shunning is the source of their own grief. They want to blame the person they are shunning.

  
  
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  Birthday Wishes Welcome!

  by LifesNotOver in

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  2. friends

  many of you don't know me or won't remember me.

  i left the jw's and my husband and my home last september - forging a new life in a new town.

  i haven't posted here for many months, but have been reading most days.

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  just fine

  Happy Birthday! I remember your posts and am glad things are looking up.

  ❤️🎂🍻 hope it's a great day for you.
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  The handling of child abuse allegations

  by Landy in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  there's a lot of criticism surrounding the jw's handling of chiild abuse within their ranks with a lot of it being well deserved.

  but i'm interested to know how people on here think child abuse allegations should be handled.

  there's a few scenarios below, the first couple are easy then it gets a bit more complex.

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  Call the police, let them investigate. My husband is also in a profession where he has to report even a suspicion of abuse. It's up to the police to investigate, not people who have no training or experience. The police in my area take abuse seriously and go to training, host seminars on how to protect children.
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  Why do you get upset about family shunning you?

  by mr_doubtful in

  1. watchtower
  2. bible

  i understand people love their family but i also don't understand why you end up caring in the end.

  i'm ready to leave and i 100% don't expecting my family to have any contact with me nor do i want them to contact me.

  if they are going to chose a man made religion over me, that's their choice and i will sleep easy at night.

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  I can understand where you are coming from. Because when I was leaving I knew I had to steel myself for the repercussions. I had to let go of the normal affection I would have had for my family, because it really did come down to me or them. I chose my freedom, I have told my siblings when they want to act like normal human beings they can be part of my life, until then I don't want to hear it. My parents learned to act like normal human beings and are now part of my life again.
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  Conditional Love

  by Saethydd in

  1. watchtower
  2. beliefs

  i've noticed several posts recently claiming that jw friends and family members give out conditional love.

  well, i'm not so sure that is entirely accurate, in fact, i would say they tend to be very steadfast in their love.

  the issue is this, they have been taught a poor form of love.

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  Their love is conditioned upon being a member of their religious organization and is therefore conditional.
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  My families shunning has gone to a whole new level

  by pale.emperor in

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  2. experiences

  8 months df'd.

  loving a life of freedom.

  however, my family are all shunning me.

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  Sorry things have taken this turn. In my experience with my own family, playing the victim gets them attention. They claim to be victims of your actions when in reality they are making themselves out to be victims by their own self imposed bad behavior.

  I decided a long time ago to cut ties with my family due to their bad behavior. Many years later I have relationship with my parents, but not my siblings. The reason: I won't put up with their bad behavior blamed on someone else. The only way I eventually got through to my parents was to cut them off completely, no calls, no texts, no emails. I didn't tell them when I moved even.

  By your mother telling everyone you are dead you can see the manipulation of everyone she tells. It's all one big manipulation, don't play into it. Walk away, make new friends.
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  Witnesses really hate it when you appear to leave.

  by schnell in

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  2. experiences

  i have a certain customer, whom we will call sally.

  i know sally only by face and only through work.

  i am a truck driver on a local dedicated route, and i often deliver to her work.

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  Doubtfully yours - that is sooooo true. They love it when things go badly for someone who has left. Without realizing that the reason some do poorly or make poor choices is because they are il-equipped to deal with losing everyone and everything. When you don't implode - they don't quite know what to do. Except giving you dirty looks when they see you 😀